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In this article, we highlight 15 top relationship books for men so you can start mastering the skills required to attract, keep, and build a great relationship with your ideal woman.
This is not an all-inclusive list; there are lots of other great books out there. If we missed one that has been extremely helpful to you, please post it in the comments.
This is meant to be a solid list to get you started on the path to dating and relationship mastery, not a listing of ALL the books out there. This is NOT a “RANKING” of these books and they are NOT presented here in any kind of ranked order.
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1. Getting the Love You Want by Dr. Harville Hendrix
According to Dr. Hendrix, only about 10% of people are relationally healthy, meaning that most people end up NOT being satisfied in a long-term relationship at some point.
This excellent book shows you how to build a conscious partnership with your girlfriend or wife that is deeply satisfying for both of you.
From Amazon.com:
“Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. The 20th anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to this groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix’s updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples’ daily interactions, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD., originated Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Together they have more than thirty years’ experience as educators and therapists and their work has been translated into more than 50 languages, with Imago practiced by two thousand therapists worldwide.”
Click here to learn more about Getting the Love You Want by Dr. Harville Hendrix >>
2. The Science of Happily Ever After by Dr. Ty Tashiro
One of the most important things when it comes to being satisfied in a long-term relationship with a woman is simply choosing the right woman for you. This is one of the best books out there when it comes to what to look for in a partner.
From Amazon.com:
“In this playful and informative exploration of the science behind how to choose a great mate, acclaimed relationship psychologist Dr. Ty Tashiro explores how to find enduring love. Dr. Tashiro translates reams of scientific studies and research data into the first book to revolutionize the way we search for love. His research pinpoints why our decision-making abilities seem to fail when it comes to choosing mates and how we can make smarter choices.”
Click here to learn more about The Science of Happily Ever After by Dr. Ty Tashiro >>
3. Naked! by David Wygant
Legend has it that David Wygant was the real-life dating coach who inspired the creation of the movie Hitch.
In addition to this best-selling dating and relationship book, he offers tons of free advice and several paid programs on his main website.
From Amazon.com:
“Are you sick and tired of trying to make your relationships work? Have you had enough of putting your own needs and desires on the back burner while you try to fulfill those of someone else? Here’s the reality of the situation: dating is not about trying to make things work, and it’s not about putting off the things you want. What dating is all about is finding the person who is the best match for you.”
Click here to learn more about Naked! by David Wygant >>
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4. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover
If you’re a “nice” guy, this book is a must-read.
From Amazon.com:
“Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome” trying too hard to please others while neglecting one’s own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness…
He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.”
Click here to learn more about No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover >>
5. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
This book will change the way you think about masculinity.
From Amazon.com:
“‘It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart,’ writes David Deida. “It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine.” The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge—and reward—for today’s man: to discover the ‘unity of heart and spine’ through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.”
Great read.
Click here to learn more about The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida>>
6. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Great read about adult attachment styles that can help you understand yourself and your partner better and lead to better relationships.
From Amazon.com:
“We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding “yes.”
In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love.”
Click here to learn more about Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller >>
7. Fight Less, Love More by Laurie Puhn
If you want to handle conflict with your girlfriend or wife well, you need tools.
This book gives you tools that you can easily apply to your real life.
From Amazon.com:
“A Harvard-trained lawyer and mediator shows busy couples how to stop fighting and start communicating.
In Fight Less, Love More, readers will learn how to identify the bad verbal habits, instinctive responses, and emotional reasoning that can cloud judgment and ultimately lead to the deterioration of otherwise healthy relationships. With exercises, examples, and sample scripts, Puhn’s modern voice presents simple 5-minute strategies create immediate, positive changes and provide long-lasting communication skills that couples can continually employ when faced with conflict.”
Click here to learn more about Fight Less, Love More by Laurie Puhn >>
8. Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody
Were your parents divorced or did they have a rocky relationship?
Or, did you suffer from other trauma during childhood like many of us do?
Well, just because you didn’t learn relationship skills from the people around you or you experienced trauma growing up doesn’t mean you can’t recover from that and learn to have happy, healthy relationships now. You are NOT doomed to repeat the past.
If you feel like “maybe you just aren’t able to have good relationships,” this book could change your life.
It explains what “dysfunction” really means and what to do about it so you can start to build healthy, fulfilling, satisfying relationships, break the pattern, and pass on your new skills to future generations.
Fantastic book.
From Amazon.com:
“Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody’s approach is the concept that the codependent adult’s injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.”
Click here to learn more about Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody >>
9. Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant
We’ve all heard the saying that you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself.
And, it happens to be true.
So, if you want to improve your dating success and your relationships, pick up this book and start loving yourself if you aren’t already doing it.
You deserve it and it will help you with dating and relationships as well.
From Amazon.com:
“The truth is to love yourself with the same intensity you would use to pull yourself up if you were hanging off a cliff with your fingers. As if your life depended upon it. Once you get going, it’s not hard to do. Just takes commitment and I’ll share how I did it.
It’s been transformative for me. I know it will be transformative for you as well.”
Click here to learn more about Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant >>
10. The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships by Neil Strauss
When Neil Strauss published his best-selling book The Game, the ‘Men’s Dating Industry’ exploded.
Guys all over the world realized they could learn to do better with women and started searching for resources like the ones in this article.
From Neil Strauss’ website:
“In his follow-up book, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships, Strauss dives deep into the worlds of sex addiction, non-monogamy, infidelity, and intimacy, and explores the hidden forces that cause people to choose each other, stay together, and break up.
Not only do his books offer insights into dating and relationships, they are very enjoyable to read.
WARNING: This one’s not for the faint of heart…Neil goes into extreme detail right into the deepest parts of his own issues and explores every option he can think of in terms of creating relationships with women.
If you’re not 100% sure if monogamy is for you and you want to see how some other options play out in real life or if you want to learn an enormous amount about relationships while being entertained, this book is for you.
Click here to learn more about The Truth by Neil Strauss >>
11. Attract and Keep Her by Jim Wolfe
If you want an awesome girlfriend or an amazing, deeply loyal wife, OR you just got broken up with or divorced and you want to know what really happened so you never have to experience that pain again, THIS IS FOR YOU…
This one-of-a-kind dating and relationship system for men teaches you EXACTLY what to do from the first moment you meet a woman you’re interested in until you decide she’s not right for you or stay with her forever.
Inside you’ll discover the exact steps to find your ideal woman, make her fall in love with you, keep her in love with you as long as you want, and build a relationship with her that’s deeply satisfying for both of you.
Yes, this is our own best-selling, flagship dating and relationship system for men.
Click here to learn more about Attract and Keep Her by Jim Wolfe >>
12. A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam
Human sexuality is notoriously difficult to study for obvious reasons.
So, two neuroscientists teamed up to analyze over a billion points of data from the internet about people’s real sexual behavior, and, incorporating their neuroscience background, wrote a book about what they learned.
Extremely interesting book about human sexuality and the differences between male and female sexuality. Hard to put down once you start reading.
From Amazon.com:
“Want to know what really turns your partner on? A Billion Wicked Thoughts offers the clearest picture ever of the differences between male and female sexuality and the teeming diversity of human desire. What makes men attracted to images and so predictable in their appetites? What makes the set up to a romantic evening so important for a woman? Why are women’s desires so hard to predict?
Neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam reveal the mechanics of sexual relationships based on their extensive research into the mountains of new data on human behavior available in online entertainment and traffic around the world. Not since Alfred Kinsey in the 1950s has there been such a revolution in our knowledge of what is really going on in the bedroom. What Ogas and Gaddam learned, and now share, will deepen and enrich the way you, and your partner, think and talk about sex.”
Click here to learn more about A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam >>
13. She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner
Clearly, enjoying a satisfying sex life is part of a great romantic relationship…
And, if your partner loves having sex with you, she’ll never “get a headache.”
So, it’s important to make sure your partner has a great time with you (without having to fake it…). And, even if you’re already great in bed, we can always learn more.
Whether you’re experienced in this area or not, this is an excellent book with great information about how to make sure your woman is fully satisfied in bed.
Click here to learn more about She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner >>
14. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson
Absolutely awesome book.
From Amazon.com:
“Models is the first men’s dating book ever written on seduction as a purely emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them, a process of self-expression rather than manipulation. It’s the most mature and honest guide on how a man can attract women without faking behavior, without lying and without emulating others. A game-changer.”
Click here to learn more about Models by Mark Manson >>
15. The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
This controversial book may give you a new perspective…
From Amazon.com:
“The Rational Male is a rational and pragmatic approach to intergender dynamics and the social and psychological underpinnings of intergender relations. The book is the compiled, ten-year core writing of author/blogger Rollo Tomassi from therationalmale.com. Rollo Tomassi is one of the leading voices in the globally growing, male-focused online consortium known as the “Manosphere”.
Outlined are the concepts of positive masculinity, the feminine imperative, plate theory, operative social conventions and the core psychological theory behind Game awareness and “red pill” ideology. Tomassi explains and outlines the principles of intergender social dynamics and foundational reasoning behind them.”
Click here to learn more about The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi >>
We sincerely hope you enjoyed this list of relationship books for men and that you find what you’re looking for. At the very least, this list should help you get started…
And remember: the information you seek is out there…
The most important thing is to APPLY what you learn to your real life by taking consistent action on what you learn every day.
Attracting women, turning female interest into love, maintaining a woman’s love for you, and having healthy, functional, satisfying relationships with women are all skills that you can learn…
So, if you want all of those things, just keep actively seeking knowledge, keep taking massive action on that knowledge, keep learning from your mistakes and your victories, be kind to yourself as you learn and grow, and keep going in spite of any and all obstacles that come your way.
If you do that, you’ll get where you want to go.
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