If you want to be more successful in any area of your life, one of the first things you have to do is increase your awareness.
Why?
Well, because, if you ignore reality it tends to work against you…
For example, if you run and jump off a cliff with no parachute/wingsuit/etc. it’s probably not going to work out very well for you.
However, if you work with reality it can be one of your most powerful teammates.
Whenever you gain a deeper understanding of reality and accept it, you can then take the right actions more often based on your new level of awareness and that makes you more successful.
Now, that doesn’t mean that increasing your awareness is easy or fun…
Many times it’s painful.
However, that pain is a short-term payment for a long-term gain…
Ignorance may be bliss but it’s a short-lived kind of bliss that isn’t very consistent.
And you usually end up paying more for it in the future.
Seeing reality more clearly and accepting it might be rough at first, but it pays off later because it allows you to get what you want more often and to be more consistently successful into the future.
You gain more control over your own destiny.
So, this article isn’t meant to bring you down; it’s just meant to splash a little cold water in your face to make sure you’re working with reality so you can get the results you really want when it comes to women.
And, if I’m hopeful and optimistic given the truths I’m about to share with you after coming to a deeper understanding of them myself over the past 20 years, I think you should be too.
So, I encourage you to accept them as much as you can and then go FORWARD from a place of strength and work with reality to create the best possible situation for yourself.
Now, I’m not asking you to accept all of these truths right away; I’m just asking you to consider them.
And, if you find yourself resisting one of these truths, ask yourself: Why am I resisting this idea? Is it actually false or am I just resisting the way things are?
Then, do some research to see if it’s true or not and decide for yourself if you want to accept it or not.
And remember: The antidote to all of these potentially harsh truths is to be with a self-reliant, giving woman with a good, flexible attitude and make absolutely sure she falls and stays DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH YOU.
Because a woman who is truly, deeply in love with you will do anything for you.
It’s a great situation to be in; unfortunately most guys never get to experience a woman actually being in love with them. <==I’m here to help change this…
And, in my mind, being with a good woman who’s deeply in love with you, who will do anything for you, and who makes your life better is the ONLY thing that makes being in a relationship worthwhile considering the following truths:
9 Unromantic Truths About Romance…
1. The best we can do in any relationship is 51-49…
50-50 isn’t possible.
Why?
Because if a couple has to make 101 decisions, one person will get their way that one extra time.
And here’s a “revolutionary” statement:
It’s better for both you and your girlfriend or wife if YOU are the 51.
Why?
Because a woman can’t be in love with you unless she respects you, sees you as at least an equal, and can to look up to you sometimes.
So, if she gets her way more, she can’t be deeply in love with you because she will lose respect for you over time.
Now, of course, we should aim for as close to 51-49 as we can get.
And of course you should also be flexible and let her get her way sometimes too.
We’re definitely not here to take advantage of anyone and she doesn’t like dictators either.
So you gotta work with her a little bit…
Just like most relationship experts say, it’s a BALANCE.
However, because 50-50 is actually not possible, strive to hold your ground a little more often and you’ll be better off. And, counter-intuitively, so will she.
Because as much as our culture might like to deny it, there’s something in the female mind that LOVES pleasing her man…as long as she’s actually deeply in love with him.
2. You’ll probably break up with any woman you’re dating…
Listen, there are only two possible outcomes that can happen when you meet a woman you want to date:
A. You break up with her/stop talking to her at some point…Or,
B. You get married to her.
Then, even if you do get married and stay married for 75+ years, one or both of you will eventually pass away…
Harsh?
Maybe…
So why am I bringing this up?
Because it might help you to relax with the next woman you’re talking to if you realize you can’t be with her forever NO MATTER WHAT. =)
Now, you don’t want to talk to her about this; we want to keep it light and playful when we’re dating a woman…
And hopefully this truth will help you do that more often.
Pressure = OFF
3. There’s only ONE parachute on the way out of a relationship…
When two people break up, one person always takes it harder.
So, knowing that and knowing that you probably WILL break up at some point, it’s best to prepare yourself for that so you don’t get completely destroyed by it.
That’s why it’s better for you to make sure a woman’s interest in you is a little higher than your interest in her (this usually takes some time, but if she’s interested in you at all you can raise her interest until it’s higher than yours).
Now, I’m not saying that you should date a woman you’re not interested in…
Definitely not.
We’re not here to play games or use anyone.
I’m just saying that, ideally, you want your interest in her to be around 9.3 out of 10 while her interest in you is around 9.5 out of 10.
That’s the best possible situation we can be in.
Remember: Everything’s better when SHE does most of the adoring.
4. 70-90% of relationships are NOT happy, healthy, and functional…
That’s the main reason why I do what I do.
The good news about this: It means that if you struggle at all with attraction, dating, and relationships, you’re most definitely not alone.
The even better news: You can LEARN how to have healthy, satisfying relationships.
If 10-30% of people ARE able to have healthy relationships, you can too.
Stick with me and we’ll get you there.
5. Many women are NOT in love with their boyfriend or husband…
Just because a woman is with a guy doesn’t mean she’s actually interested in HIM. And, most of the time, he has no idea that this could even be possible.
Listen, women will date and even marry a man for LOTS of different reasons…
Only ONE of those reasons is that she’s actually deeply in love with him.
So, we don’t want to be in that situation.
We don’t want to be with a woman who just wants to use us, who’s with us just because she can’t say no, who’s interested in our money, who wants a father for the kids she already has, who wants to control us, who wants to try to fill a gap inside herself with us, etc.
We want to be with a woman who has her life mostly together, who has a good attitude about life on her own without us, and who is with us because she’s actually interested in US, not what we can do for her or some other reason.
6. When a woman’s interest in you (I call this strength of interest or “SOI”) hits 0, there is NOTHING you can do to raise it again…
And that’s true even if you’ve been married to her for 50 years.
Also, if a woman’s SOI is already 0 when you meet her, there’s NOTHING you can do to attract her.
“Game” only works with women who are already a little bit interested in you or at least open to you.
Is that the way it should be?
I’m not sure.
Is that really fair?
I don’t know.
Is that the way it IS?
Most definitely.
So, if you discover that a woman isn’t interested in you, MOVE ON.
That’s the only thing you CAN do: Look for a woman who is interested in you.
The sooner you accept this, the sooner you’ll be able to date the right woman for you.
7. There’s no such thing as a “soul mate…”
And, even if there is, there are MANY “ones” who are perfect for you.
You have literally thousands of perfect matches out there in the world.
It’s just simple math.
So take the pressure off the situation when you meet an amazing woman…
No.
Is she A one?
Maybe.
Your job is to find out.
There are many women you can be happy with.
So your mission is just to find one, not “the” one.
8. Only YOU can “love you for you…”
Listen, the only one who can actually see the real you at the deepest level is you.
So, loving you for you is YOUR JOB.
A woman can’t love you for you even if she wants to.
Only you can do that.
A woman falls in love with your behavior over time (assuming she was interested in you in the first place), NOT your “real” self.
So accept, love, and take excellent care of yourself and then look for women who can ADD to your happiness and ADD to your self-love a little bit.
Then, just make sure your behavior allows her to fall deeply in love with you.
Create a life that YOU love for yourself whether any particular woman wants you or not, and then share your life with women who deserve it instead of looking for a woman to make your life complete.
Also, a woman tends to feel about you the way YOU feel about you.
So, if you want a woman to love you…
Love yourself first.
The best part about that: You have complete control over it and you can give it to yourself consistently.
And that’s awesome.
9. Relationships AT BEST are tough…
Having a good relationship is extremely difficult to do.
Why?
Because no matter how amazing two people are, we all have different values, beliefs, desires, etc.
And again, it’s never 50-50…
51-49 is the best we can actually do and that makes any relationship a bit of a struggle or at least a negotiation.
So, if you want to have a wife and a family or even just a long-term girlfriend, you better make sure you choose a girlfriend or wife who has a GREAT attitude and who has her life mostly together…
Otherwise, it’s simply NOT worth it.
If you don’t choose a good woman and make sure she’s in love with you, I’m calling it right now: You’re in for future pain and frustration guaranteed.
And if you don’t believe me, just ask your buddy who just went through a nasty divorce – he’ll set you straight in less than two seconds.
Now listen, I didn’t create these truths…
And I don’t like some of them myself; it took me awhile to accept a couple of them…
However, the more we accept all of them, the happier and more successful we become.
So roll them around in your head for a while and see how much you can buy in.
And here’s the best news…
If, after considering all of these truths, you still DO want to find a woman who’s a great match for you, make her fall deeply in love with you, make sure she stays deeply in love with you, and create a happy, healthy, satisfying relationship with her, I will teach you exactly how to do that.
Both right here on this website and, of course, inside the Attract and Keep Her System…
That’s what I do. =)
Until Next Time,
Jim
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