Should You Buy Her a Drink?

“Can I buy you a drink?” is one of the most common “pick-up lines” in the world…

And, it’s also one of the worst.

Why is it so bad?

Well, listen, saying ANYTHING to a woman to get a conversation started is better than never saying anything to her…

However, this kind of line SCREAMS all kinds of negative things to her right away:

You’re saying that you have to offer her something outside of yourself (a drink) in order to be worthy of her attraction and time.

You’re starting out your entire connection with her saying that you’re not good enough for her on your own…

Does that sound like a genuinely confident (attractive) guy to you?

You’re saying that you think she’s physically attractive, so you want to buy something for her…

You don’t even know her at all, yet you want to buy her a gift?

That says to her:

A. You’re shallow and only care about looks (even if that’s not true).

B. You don’t have standards for the kind of women you’re looking for beyond physical characteristics (when you actually DO have standards and she thinks she might be able to meet them, she becomes much more attracted to you).

C. You think she can be “bought…” (even if you don’t really think so).

Most women don’t want to be thought of as anything close to being a prostitute…

3. You probably don’t have many options in terms of women who want to date you (even if you do).

Otherwise, why would you try to buy a drink for woman you don’t even know?

4. You’re saying that you’re not creative or unique AT ALL and just parrot what thousands of other guys have said to her before…

Is that the kind of first impression you want her to have if you want to hook up with her or date her?

Of course not.

Now, most guys open with this line simply because they can’t think of anything else to say in the moment…

Well, whenever you can’t think of anything “witty” to say as you’re approaching her, just say, “Hi” instead…

That way you won’t immediately kill any attraction she might feel for you like you would if you offered to buy her a drink.

Remember: You can always playfully tease and challenge her later on in your conversation…you don’t have to try to do everything with your opening line.

So, if you shouldn’t open with that line, what should you do in terms of buying women drinks?

Instead of offering to buy her a drink right away, you can reverse this classically horrible pick-up line to start challenging her immediately:

“I’ll have a whiskey and coke please, thank you.”

This works really well if she’s standing at the bar waiting to buy herself a drink. It helps if you have a little playful smirk on your face and you sell it by actually assuming she will buy you a drink and that it’s no big deal: OF COURSE she’s thinking about buying you a drink because attractive women buy you drinks all the time….When you use this line, play the part and stick to the bit.

It’s funny and challenging and projects confidence because you ASSUME that she wants to buy you a drink.

Try this one out this weekend if you want and see how it works for you.

You can buy her a drink AFTER you establish attraction and get to know her a little bit.

So, after you playfully tease her and she banters back and forth with you a little bit and then you ask her a couple of open-ended questions about herself and she answers them, you can get her a drink at that point if you want as a REWARD for being a cool person.

Just tell her she can get the next round. =)

As long as you’re not trying to get her to like you by buying her a drink, you can do it without crushing her attraction.

Make sense?

Awesome.

If you ask her to meet you at a happy hour or you take her to dinner and she orders a drink or two, you should pay for her drinks or at least assume you’ll pay unless she INSISTS on paying for herself.

When you know her already and you ask her on a date, things are different: You SHOULD pay for her drinks because the person who asked the other person out is the one who “should” pay.

And, in the early stages of dating, that will usually be you.

It’s very different when you buy a drink for a girl you just met vs. a girl you invited to meet up with you.

So, if you’ve been talking to her for a while and she’s having fun with you, go ahead and buy her a drink if you want. And, if you ask her out and she gets a drink or two, you should pay for them.

Otherwise, let all the other guys out there buy women drinks and get NOWHERE with them while you just playfully tease them, have fun with them, get to know them a little bit, and lead everything forward one step at a time while also encouraging her to chase you.

Remember: Buying a woman a drink doesn’t make her want you…So, only do it if you would buy a drink for a friend in the same situation and you’ll do a lot better.

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