Asking a woman out the right way makes everything else you do in dating easier and getting it wrong can sabotage you even if you do a lot of other things right…
So, let’s get right to the point:
How to Ask a Woman Out PROPERLY…
First of all, when you want a woman to meet up with you/go on a date with you, DO NOT:
-Ask her what her schedule looks like…
-Ask her something like “When can I see you again?” or “When’s the next date?”
-Ask her to help you with the date idea, “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
INSTEAD:
Choose an activity that you will genuinely enjoy that you think she will probably enjoy also and then invite her to join you for that activity.
Choose a SPECIFIC day, time, and activity and invite her to join you.
For example:
“Hey, wanna meet me for coffee Thursday night at 8:30 PM?”
“There’s this new wine bar I’ve been wanting to check out. I’m heading there Wednesday evening. Join me? I’m planning to be there at 8”
“Meet me for a quick smoothie Tuesday at 6:30 PM?”
Etc…
Why?
1. You are the LOGISTICAL COORDINATOR.
It’s your “role” in this dance. Embrace it.
2. It sets it up so you can read her interest in you more clearly. When you ask a CLEAR question, you get a CLEAR response.
If she agrees to your date idea and the time and day you suggest, she might be interested if she shows up on time excited and has a fun time with you (she still might cancel a few hours to 30 minutes before or not show up…).
If she says something VAGUE like, “I’m busy,” or “How about some other time?”
You can assume she’s NOT interested and move on.
Even if she IS interested (less than 5% of the time when she gives a vague “no” like this), moving on is still the only thing that works in this situation – she will re-engage you after a few days if you misread her as not being interested and then you’ll KNOW she’s interested vs. you continuing to ask her out…
And, when you don’t ask her out again and wait for her to re-engage you/move on, if she IS interested it always raises her interest in you when you demonstrate this kind of self-control.
So, when you simply move on, you ALWAYS win: Either you stop wasting your time or you make her like you more.
If she can’t make the day and time you suggest and she IS interested, she will suggest a SPECIFIC date and time that DOES work for her:
“Hmmm…I’m busy Wednesday night…can we meet on Thursday at 7?”
Remember: when she likes you, she HELPS YOU.
If getting her out is like pulling teeth, it’s a huge red flag.
3. If she has a better idea, she’ll let you know:
“I’m not a huge coffee drinker…wanna go for ice cream?”
At that point, you can go with her idea if you want, but in the mean time assume that you will plan everything and just put it out there.
Don’t try so hard to find a date you think SHE wants; find dates that YOU really want to go on and that you think she will probably enjoy too and then just invite her to join you.
That’s how you put the “giving vs. trying to get” mentality into ACTION in a real way.
And, it works.
Remember: Be DIRECT when you ask her out: Suggest a specific day, time, and activity and see how she responds.
And now you know how to ask women out in the best possible way for you and for her.
This is one of those crucial FUNDAMENTALS that I recommend taking action on right away and then making it a habit to always do it this way.
It’s a small thing that can make a big impact on your results.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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