In this article, I’m going to let you off the hook a little bit…
If, like most of us (including myself), you’ve ever found dating in the modern world at least somewhat challenging…
You are most certainly NOT ALONE.
We’ve all been dealt slightly different hands that can make dating easier or harder for us as individuals, but dating in general can be tough for all of us in today’s world…
Even if you’re good-looking, have a good job that you love, etc.
Why?
One BIG Reason Why Dating is HARD…
Well, consider this for a moment:
There are many countries in the world where they still don’t have what we call “dating” here in the West…
And that includes a little country called Armenia.
What basically happens in Armenia is that the parents of a young man and a young woman who get along well with each other agree that their kids might be a good match for each other (or sometimes a young man thinks he’s into a young woman and so he asks her family for permission to pursue her with the blessing of his own family as well)…
Then, the young man and young woman meet each other (if they haven’t met already), start spending some time together, and then most of the time they can decide if they want to continue with the match or not (sometimes they are pressured to agree even if they’re not super into it – depends on the families).
And then they get married.
That’s it.
No flirting.
No dating around.
A single man in Armenia isn’t supposed to even talk to a single woman he’s interested in without permission from her father, brothers, and sometimes even her uncles…
So dating the way we do it is pretty much impossible even if people want to do it.
Now, of course, some teenagers find a way to sneak around and make out with each other, etc.
However, the culture is very concerned with a woman’s virginity and in some places the family of the man has the right to check to see if she’s a virgin once they get married…
So, most women are still very afraid to fool around too much before marriage.
And, when you consider that the man’s mother will be living with her son’s new wife under the same roof in a majority of cases, it’s pretty clear why the family has such a big influence on who marries who over there.
Mothers pretty much decide who is a good fit for their sons and who is not.
Now, obviously, some mothers in the US and other Western countries try to get involved in matchmaking when it comes to their sons…
However, parents are not usually very involved in our dating lives over here…
And, we generally date A LOT more people before we decide to get married.
Here’s the main point:
One big reason that dating is so HARD is that “dating” itself is a relatively NEW CONCEPT…
And many places around the world still don’t really have it at all.
So, because dating is so new, we need to learn how to do it.
It’s not a “natural” thing that we should “just know.”
In fact, most human beings who have ever existed never had to “date” anyone the way we do it today.
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Check out this awesome YouTube video for more about the History of Dating if you’re interested in this fascinating topic:
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So, dating itself is very new.
And so is marriage based on ROMANTIC LOVE…
And, again, the fact that these concepts are new means that we have to learn how to navigate this modern landscape.
(By the way, these ideas are actually more circular than linear…back in Ancient India there were 8 different forms of marriage; one of which was based on mutual love. Then, powerful forces started encouraging arranged marriages in India vs. all other forms of marriage and so that became the system there until recent times when more and more people in India are marrying based on romantic love. I talk about this a little bit in my book The Happiest Man in Hollywood…).
Okay, so we get it: dating is new and that’s one BIG reason why dating is HARD…
But why didn’t previous generations struggle so much with dating like we do now?
I mean, dating isn’t that new (our fathers and grandfathers did it to some degree) and it seems like it’s harder for us now than it was before.
Great question my friend…
Is it because of modern technology?
Partially…but technology can also be used to your advantage.
Is it the changing cultural norms that make it easier to break up and get divorced than it was in the past?
That’s absolutely part of it too.
However, here’s the BIGGEST part of that in my opinion:
Women are not as dependent on men economically as they were before.
And that means that it’s not good enough anymore just to be a solid guy with a decent job when it comes to attracting and keeping a wife.
Listen, as I’m sure you know, the fact is that most Western women today can make their own money…
They don’t necessarily need to get married to survive or take care of children financially.
And that simply wasn’t the case before.
So what does that mean for us?
Well, if marriages are based on Romantic Love, there are fewer economic reasons for women to get married vs. the past, and dating is a new concept in general…
Then a woman’s FEELINGS for a man are the main reason why she chooses to stay with one man vs. another in today’s society.
A woman’s INTEREST LEVEL in a man has always been the most important factor in a romantic relationship in terms of how happy the man is over the long-term (a woman who’s in love with you treats you much better than a woman who isn’t)…
However, in today’s society, it’s even more important.
So, if your Mom isn’t going to choose a willing woman for you to marry and having a decent job isn’t enough, the only thing left if you want a girlfriend or wife is to…
…find a woman who is interested in you and then RAISE her interest in you as high as it can go.
And that’s exactly what I’m here to teach you to do.
And again, we have to learn how to do it because all of this is very new.
Now, if you already own our best-selling Attract and Keep Her System, then you already know how to identify the right woman for you, how to make sure she falls deeply in love with you, how to keep her deeply in love with you indefinitely (this is the biggest key to modern romantic relationships), and how to build a satisfying relationship with her…
And, if not, get yourself in there with us.
Because, for the last time, we have to learn how to do it if we want to be in a relationship that’s good for us.
And, by the way, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single and there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re single right now or if you want to be single and just date around…
But if you want to have a good relationship with a good woman then you have to follow the steps that get you there or you’ll regret it later.
There are many pitfalls that come with choosing our own partners that our Mom’s don’t help us see anymore in the West…
And there are many challenges to overcome when it comes to maintaining that spark in a long-term relationship.
However, we can do it if we learn how.
And, of course, you can start with our advanced free training if you haven’t already seen it:
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Either way, stick with me and we’ll get this dating and relationship stuff handled for sure.
I’ll be back with you soon.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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