A while back I got an email from a top client who always sends me his awesome thoughts and questions…
And one of his emails got me thinking about female behavior and why women are attracted to certain things.
So, because this discussion might help you attract women, I decided to share his message to me and my response to him with you in this article.
Here’s what he wrote in:
“Sir,
Thanks for bringing variety in your newsletter.
There are so many online resources available for guiding men in the dating field…
That itself is proof that women behave totally counter-intuitively in dating games.
The bigger irony is that sometimes they seem to defy evolutionary logic, for example they tend to prefer a guy who seems to be less emotionally invested over a guy who shows emotional attachment.
Someone has rightly said ‘Indifference makes the difference.’
Best regards,
-R.B.”
First of all, well done on getting me thinking sir!
Secondly, here’s what I told him in response:
Do women like emotionally detached men?
Actually, women are not defying evolutionary logic at all.
Quite the contrary.
Why?
Because when a man becomes overly emotionally attached to a woman quickly, it sends her a SIGNAL…
And that signal tells her very clearly that the guy probably doesn’t have a lot going on in his life and probably doesn’t have many options for women he can date…
And it also tells her that his genes probably aren’t the best she can find and that her children’s chances of survival and success are lower than she would want if she had children with him.
So, it’s probably in her best interest to date someone else, especially when it comes down to ‘evolutionary logic.’
Remember: Given an attractive enough woman and enough men in a society, she can ALWAYS find a guy who would be willing to help her raise kids even if he’s not the father. It’s easy for her…
So, when it comes to real feelings of sexual attraction and feelings of deep devoted love, she’s looking for signs of health and success.
And a successful guy will become emotionally attached to her over a LONG period of time as she shows him how good of a mate she can be instead of feeling that way right when he meets her or by the third date.
It will take him longer to develop that strong emotional attachment to her.
Because he’s busy living a life he enjoys and because he has many options in terms of the women he can date.
He’s able to wait and see if she’s actually a good fit for him or not before he commits to her or gets overly attached to her.
So, he takes his time with her.
And that also sends her a clear SIGNAL: This guy might be the one.
And, if he actually loves himself and his life with or without her, he will never become as emotionally attached to her as a “needy” guy will be. <==This is actually healthier for the relationship as well.
The successful guy takes his time because his life is good with or without her and because he has more than one good option when it comes to dating.
So, it’s in a woman’s best evolutionary interest NOT to hook up with a guy who’s overly invested in her too soon because that tells her very clearly that she can do better.
Make sense?
Excellent.
Here’s the thing: Sometimes things that seem counter-intuitive actually make perfect sense after further review.
And, by the way, women are actually CONSISTENT in their dating behaviors and once you fully understand the principles of attraction and love you see that very clearly.
That’s why I’m here: To clear up the fog in your mind that might be clouding the truth about women, dating, and relationships that comes from society, your friends, your family, and even your own misconceptions.
Because the more aware you become of the way things are when it comes to women, the more you can take the correct ACTIONS when it comes to women.
And consistently taking the correct actions based on REALITY is what leads to your ultimate success and happiness.
So stick with me and we’ll get you wherever you want to go.
Alright man, I’ll be back with you soon.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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