We all kind of know that women love “charming” men…
After all, who’s the object of female affection in almost all Disney-style fairy tales?
Yep, Prince CHARMING…
Well, the Prince part = High Social Status.
So, we talk about social status a lot around here and it’s really important in terms of attracting women…
However, it’s not the subject of this article, so we’ll come back to it another time.
For now, let’s focus on the Charming part…
What does being charming mean exactly, at least when it comes to attracting the right woman for you?
Well, it means lots of things, like:
-Making a woman feel lots of strong, positive emotions…
-Creating good emotions for yourself and then sharing them with her…
-Being non-judgmental (accepting yourself and others)…
-Being open and warm…
-Not “trying to get” anything…
-Being fun and making her laugh (not at your expense)…
-Not taking yourself too seriously…
-Being playfully challenging with her…
-Making yourself comfortable so that she can feel relaxed and free around you also…
-Genuinely wanting to get to know her…
-Being interested but not needy…
-Etc.
There are so many things that go into being what a woman would consider “charming” that I could easily create an entire course on how to be charming…
In fact, maybe I will at some point.
How to be more CHARMING with women…
However, for today, let’s cover 3 simple yet highly effective ways you can be more charming with a woman (= more attractive) starting RIGHT NOW:
1. Smile with your eyes…
Practice smiling with your eyes ONLY until it feels natural to you.
Smiling with your eyes (sometimes referred to as a “smirk”) is a very powerful attraction tool if you master it.
Smiling with your eyes is very powerful for two main reasons:
A. When you smile with your eyes it’s a GENUINE smile…It’s much harder to fake than a smile with your mouth.
B. When you smile with your eyes, it gives her a POSITIVE signal…
In other words, you’re pulling her in.
And, when you keep your mouth closed at the same time, it gives her a NEGATIVE signal…
In other words, you’re subconsciously pushing her away a little bit.
And when you push her away AND pull her in at the same time, that’s when she really starts to feel extremely attracted to you.
When you smile with your mouth open (with space between your upper and lower teeth), it shows emotional openness, which is a rapport-builder…
In fact, politicians use it to great effect – look at photos of successful politicians and extremely successful people in general and they almost always have an open-mouth smile.
So I’m not saying that you should NEVER show your teeth or sport an open-mouth smile…
In fact, a guy who smiles a lot does MUCH better with women than the guys who think that never smiling somehow makes them appear “tough” and “attractive” (it doesn’t – at all).
I’m just saying that when you first meet a woman it’s MUCH more attractive when you smile with your eyes and keep your mouth closed because you want to build rapport with your eyes AND break rapport with your mouth at the same time.
Ninja?
Yes.
Mostly subconscious?
Yes.
Effective?
Extremely (if done correctly).
Try it out and see for yourself.
2. Ask her open-ended questions and then LISTEN…
Let her talk.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you should be her “shoulder to cry on” or be the guy that listens to all her PROBLEMS and listens to her talk about all the other men she’s dating…
It just means that you should ask her questions about her favorite subject:
HERSELF…
…and then let her tell you as much about herself as possible.
A woman will be much more attracted to you if you make HER feel like the most interesting person in the room vs. if she thinks YOU are the most interesting person in the room.
The best part: You don’t have to worry about “what to say next” very much.
It’s much less work for you to let her talk than it is to try to “impress” her by telling her all about yourself.
And, it’s MUCH more attractive…
Just keep guiding the conversation along and keep asking her questions that encourage her to talk for a long time.
Let her carry the conversation for the most part and she’ll think you’re a great listener and that you’re confident, mysterious, and CHARMING.
3. Blame your attraction to her on her…
Doing this is really funny…
And, extremely CHARMING.
Say things to her like:
“Stop making me like you…”
“Stop being so awesome and making me like you…You know I’m trying not to like anyone right now. Not cool.”
“I don’t know what kind of tricks you’re using on me right now to make me like you so much, but it’s really not fair. Please stop…”
Etc.
These lines work best if you deliver them with a straight face (pretend to actually be mad about her making you like her) and then smile at her with your eyes (only) so she knows you’re being playful.
Or, you can have a little smirk on your face the whole time – your call.
These lines are extremely powerful because they follow the principles of “push-pull” in exactly the right way.
You’re expressing interest and not being needy at the same time = WINNING.
BONUS #1: Treat everything she says about you as a HUGE compliment…
Part of being charming is being “disarming…”
So, when she says, “I hate you!”
You say, “Awww…thanks so much. You’re such a sweetheart.”
Again, add the smirk for extra attraction points also.
BONUS #2: Give and Lead vs. Trying to get and Chasing…
If you’re giving freely (you seek to SHARE positive energy, time, fun, good conversation, etc. with her) and LEADING everything (the conversation, the next meetup, etc.) instead of trying to get something (you’re trying to “get” a kiss, phone number, etc. from her) and CHASING (texting her more than once with no reply, asking her when/where you can see her again instead of just planning the next meetup and inviting her, etc.) you’re much more CHARMING and attractive to her.
Now, again, there are lots of other things you can do to develop your charm with women…
However, the three powerful tips (and 2 bonus tips) I just shared with you will get you off to an excellent start.
Try them out starting today and see if you can feel the difference in the way women respond to you.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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