If you’ve ever had a woman leave you or cheat on you then you know exactly how bad it can be…
Not only can it make you depressed for months, take away your confidence, and cause emotional pain and confusion for years afterward in some cases, you can also suffer from losing your assets, losing the right to see your children if you have them, poor health, a shorter lifespan, etc…
Obviously, it’s not good.
And almost every single one of us have been there at some point…
So, is it possible for us to prevent these negative outcomes in life?
Can we actually make sure a woman never leaves us or cheats on us?
And, if we can prevent those things from happening, how do we do it?
Well, that’s basically what one of my top clients asked me recently:
“Jim,
Please write an article about:
How to find a woman who will never leave you for a better person or cheat on you.
Thanks,
-A.T.”
First of all, thank you for the excellent question!
This one should be fun and insightful at the same time…
Secondly, here’s my response:
How to find a woman who will never leave you or cheat on you…
1. If you create a life you love (including your internal world) no matter what happens with any particular woman, including a strong, supportive social circle, that will soften the blow of any “rejection” you may experience from a woman.
Remember: You are whole and complete exactly as you are right now.
There’s nothing missing and no woman can “complete” you even if she wants to…
Because you’re already whole and complete all on your own right now.
Every time you ask a woman out or invest any part of yourself in a relationship, you’re taking a risk…
Understanding that you’re whole and complete on your own and figuring out how to get your needs met on your own helps you minimize that risk to a tolerable level.
Here’s the (uncomfortable) truth:
Most relationships eventually end whether it’s after one conversation or 31 years of marriage.
And, more importantly for this discussion, there’s only ONE parachute available when the “plane of love” is about to crash into the side of a jagged mountain.
You can let the woman you’re with have it if you want but if you ask any guy who’s been through a nasty divorce or horrible breakup he’d tell you to hang on to it with everything you’ve got just in case…
No matter how good you feel on your wedding day (or when she becomes your girlfriend) and no matter how good you think a woman is, you never know how things will go in the future.<==Nobody thinks about this…except extremely smart, successful, attractive men.
And, while it’s not very “romantic,” it’s the truth.
So protect yourself by following the plan we talk about inside the Attract and Keep Her system and don’t give up on it just because you’re extremely interested in a woman.<==This consistency also makes you more attractive to women while protecting you at the same time.
That’s called winning…
Otherwise, you’re leaving yourself open to BIG problems later on.
2. Filter OUT the wrong women for you as quickly as possible.
Listen, there are TWO main goals when it comes to dating if you want a long-term relationship (most men only think there’s one):
Goal #1: Filter IN the right women for you.
Then, raise their interest until they fall deeply in love with you and then do what’s required to keep them in love.
Goal #2: Filter OUT the wrong women for you as quickly as possible.
The goal is not to attract every woman you’re interested in…
You also have to make sure the women you date have the qualities that will allow you to be satisfied with them over the long-term.
That’s one of the reasons why I recommend taking women on inexpensive/free dates for ALL of your first dates:
It filters OUT women who are interested in money and filters IN women who are interested in YOU.
A woman with good intentions who’s at least a little bit interested in you will happily agree to meet you for coffee or a happy hour for your first date with her…
A gold-digger, on the other hand, will run for the hills <==Yes, this is a GOOD thing no matter how good-looking she is.
Isn’t it interesting how one simple thing like that can help you protect your assets over the next 50 years?
And, even if you have a lot of money, don’t try to impress a woman with your money…
Let her figure out that you’re wealthy on her own as she gets to know you because flaunting your wealth early on as a way to try to attract a woman filters OUT the women you really want to be with and filters IN the women who are there for all the wrong reasons.
The women who are interested in YOU will think of your wealth as an awesome bonus even though they would still want to be with you if you weren’t so well off.
On the other hand, the women who are interested in your money aren’t there for you and would leave you if the money runs out, use you as long as possible, and/or take money from you in a hefty divorce settlement…
…and if that’s the case it’s far better to hire “professionals” to take care of your intimacy needs instead of getting your emotions involved while setting yourself up to give a woman HALF of your assets or more while possibly suffering through YEARS of legal battles, possibly paying her alimony every month for the rest of your life, and paying her legal bills on top of all that.
Man, I’m telling you, this stuff goes WAY deeper than you think (if you’re divorced you know what I’m talking about)…
So, I’m glad you’re here.
The great thing about following the step-by-step dating and relationship plan inside the Attract and Keep Her System is that not only does it show you how to make the RIGHT woman for you fall and stay deeply in love with you, it also FILTERS OUT the WRONG women for you as quickly as possible.
You have to do both if you want to be happy and keep your sanity intact.
And then, when it comes to choosing a good woman, make sure you also choose a woman who is LOYAL.
Here’s the thing: There are some women who will cheat on you even if they are deeply in love with you (their interest in you is 9 out of 10 or higher).
Why?
Usually because they have deep unresolved trauma issues.
And how can you tell when you meet a disloyal woman?
Listen to her when she talks…
Most of the time, she’ll tell you.
For example, if she says on the second date, “You know, I’ve cheated on every ex I’ve had so far, but…” that’s a HUGE red flag that she’s not a loyal woman.
The hard part is to pay attention to those red flags and then stop contacting her when you see them even if you really like her and she’s extremely good looking.
Again, filter her OUT because she most likely will cheat on you too.
The only exception to this rule is if she’s done some serious personal growth work since then and she’s telling you about that as well…
Even then, make sure you protect yourself because nobody else will.
The more loyal a woman is in general, the better it is for you over the long-term.
So, start looking for signs of a woman’s loyalty when you first start dating her.
And then, with every woman you date, once you get to the point where she’s deeply in love with you and she brings up the idea of being in a committed relationship with you, ask her:
“Are you still talking to any of your exes?”
And then, if she says, “No,” you can ask her to be your girlfriend if you want.
But if she says, “Yeah…I mean we’re just friends so it’s cool…” or anything lets you know she is still in contact with an ex, then just say, “You know, I really like the way things are going right now…let’s just keep it the way it is for now.”
And then DON’T ask her to be your girlfriend/commit to her yet.
Just keep asking her out like you’ve been doing before that.
Don’t move the relationship forward yet.
They key is that you don’t want to tell her directly: “I won’t be in a committed relationship with you if you’re still communicating with other potential suitors or your exes…”
That’s much too controlling…
You want her to come to the understanding that if she wants to be in a committed relationship with you she has to stop talking to/flirting with/dating other men/her exes on her own.
And, when you do this, it also filters out disloyal women so you don’t have to worry about them cheating on you later.
Make sense?
Awesome, moving on:
3. Make sure the right woman for you falls and STAYS deeply in love with you.
Listen closely: A woman’s high interest in you (9 out of 10 or higher) is your ONLY “adultery insurance.” <==Read 3X…
A legal document and a gold ring doesn’t cut it.
Here’s the biggest lesson of the day: A relatively psychologically stable woman (no deep trauma issues) cannot cheat on you if her interest in you is 9 out of 10 or higher. <==Read 3X…
It’s impossible (unless you cheat on her first and she does it to get revenge on you).
So, if you meet a relatively psychologically stable woman who is available and interested in you, make sure you do everything right in terms of raising her interest until it hits at least 9 out of 10 and then stays there as long as you’re with her…
Because if you do that she will NEVER leave you, she won’t think there’s anyone better out there (for her), and she won’t cheat on you unless you cheat on her and she does it out of revenge.
In fact, when a woman’s interest in you is actually 9 out of 10 or higher, she doesn’t think there are any better men out there for her even if there are lots of guys she could be with who are wealthier than you, better-looking than you, have better personalities than you, etc.
And, on the other hand, if a woman’s interest in you falls to 0 at any point (meaning there is nothing you can do to ever raise it again no matter what you do) and she hasn’t left you yet, she might hook up with someone else but that does not make her a disloyal woman in general.
It just means she’s not interested in you at all (anymore) even if she’s still “with you.”
That may sound strange to you as a man but in reality a lot of women (even good ones) start looking for your replacement and build up a lot of resentment before they actually leave you even though they lost their last morsel of interest in you months (or years) ago.
In those cases, the man usually thinks that the breakup happened suddenly, that her feelings changed overnight, and that she’s a horrible woman.
However, what really happened (if she’s a good woman) is that his behavior lowered her interest all the way down to 0 a long time ago and she just didn’t leave him yet for one reason or another.
And that’s why we focus so much on female interest around here:
How interested a woman is in you is the number one most important factor when it comes to having a good romantic relationship with her.
Everything else comes in second.
So protect yourself and make sure you date women who are interested in you.
And then make sure you keep them interested in you as long as you’re with them.
Because you DESERVE to be with a woman who’s with you for the right reasons and because that’s the only way to make 100% sure you never experience the extreme pain and confusion that comes when a woman breaks up with you, cheats on you, or divorces you.
Alright sir, I gotta go…
Cheers,
Jim
