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When it comes to attracting women, there’s one critical element that men tend to miss:
TESTING.
See, women tend to test men automatically while most men don’t know how to test women at all…
In fact, it never even crosses their mind even though it leads to much more success and happiness with women:
Testing women protects you from women who are there for the wrong reasons, stops you from wasting your valuable time and energy, and allows you to find the right woman for you FASTER (or a woman who is down to hook up faster if you’re not looking for a relationship at the moment).
It also gives you more clarity, certainty, and CONFIDENCE as you move forward with a woman (which also makes you more attractive and successful).
So, one of the main things I do is show you how to test women.
It’s not enough to try to attract women; we must test them as well if we wish to enjoy the highest levels of happiness and success with women.
The cool thing about that is many times something can be a test and increase a woman’s attraction at the same time…
So, in this article, I’m going to go over a few powerful, effective ways you can test women starting today.
What should we test women for and how do we do it?
How to TEST Women…
There are 2 main things we should test a woman for:
1. Her interest level…
This is how attracted she is to you and how down she is to hook up if you’re just going for hookups…
And it’s her level of genuine romantic feelings for you if you want a long-term relationship.
2. Her CHARACTER…
This one mostly applies if you want to spend your life with a woman but we should still be a bit careful of certain women even if you’re just having fun with women right now.
We don’t want to wake up one day with a keyed car or worse. =)
And here’s how you can test a woman’s interest level and character:
A. Test Her Interest Level…
-The name test…
When you meet a woman in person, don’t offer up your name.
Ask her what her name is instead.
Now, if she says, “I’m Sarah, what’s your name?”
Then you can tell her your name.
But if she doesn’t ask, DO NOT tell her your name back.
Wait and see if she asks you your name back.
If she asks your name back at some point in the conversation, she’s either interested in you, polite, or both…
However, if she never asks you your name back, you can safely assume she’s not interested in you and move on.
I wouldn’t even ask her for her number.
I would just politely and naturally finish the interaction and then move on to the next woman.
This is an EXCELLENT little test because it applies to long-term relationships and hookups, it tells you something right away, and it “primes the pump” in terms of her chasing you…
Because you are giving her a little taste of CHALLENGE when you don’t just offer your name up like every other guy she meets – she must ask you for it before you give it to her.
I highly recommend adopting this one and using it with every woman you meet.
And now we’re already testing women more than almost all other men out there and it’s super easy and effective.
Boom. =)
Another good thing about this beyond not wasting your time with a woman who’s not interested is that you don’t make it awkward with a woman who’s not interested – you get the “hint” right away and just move on…
So, it’s great for everyone.
Now, beyond the name test, we should separate these interest level tests into two categories: hookups and long-term relationship tests…
For Hookups:
Assuming she asks your name back…
-Playfully tease her…
She if she plays back with you and enjoys it.
This is an indication of her being attracted to you.
-If she seems to be enjoying bantering back and forth with you, then QUALIFY her and ask her an open-ended question that shows her you want to know more about her:
“You seem like a really fun person…So, tell me, if you hit the lottery jackpot tomorrow and never had to work again, what would you do then and why?”
If she answers these kinds of “get to know you” / “qualifying” questions and seems into sharing herself with you, then we know we’re getting warmer and we can proceed.
Now we can assume she’s probably attracted and that she’s getting comfortable with you at the same time, which is what we want.
-Ask her to go to another venue with you…
“Hey, wanna go to x bar down the street? I hear it’s fun…”
If she agrees, then it’s much more likely she will also agree to go home with you later.
If not, then ask for her number and try again on the first date (then one more time on date #2 if you want).
If she doesn’t give you her number, just move on.
-Ask her to go to a location where you can be alone together…
This is the strongest indication of whether or not she’s down for a hookup right away.
Again, if she doesn’t agree to go somewhere with you, ask for her number and try again on dates #1 or 2 or move on if she doesn’t give you her number.
-If she does end up somewhere alone with you:
IF she has passed the name test, she has enjoyed your playful teasing and banter, she has answered your qualifying questions earnestly, and she is now alone with you, you can safely assume that she is probably down for at least kissing.
Still, you can test her more:
-Try having her sit on the couch and then you lie on the couch facing up with your head kind of comfortably cradled in her lap.
If she lets you do this, it’s a VERY STRONG indicator that she is down for more…
Alternatively (or in combination), you can also use a “verbal primer” to gauge whether or not she’s ready to be kissed and build tension at the same time (we cover how to do this fully inside The Good Guy Guide).
Then, just keep escalating from there (while also pulling back a bit in-between steps so she wants more) until she stops you.
Look into her eyes and go for a kiss…
And, of course, if she doesn’t pass a test at any point, you simply assume she’s not attracted or interested in hooking up right now, STOP, back up, and either try again later or simply move on depending on the situation.
For more details on what to do if you’re just going for hookups, grab The Good Guy Guide if you don’t already own it.
For a Long-Term Relationship:
-After the name test, in your first conversation with a woman, ask her for her phone number…
If she gives it to you with reasonable enthusiasm, great! We can proceed…
If she doesn’t give you her number or it seems like she kinda doesn’t really want you to have it all that much, we can just move on to the next woman.
-Ask her to meet you for coffee for your first date…
A woman who is interested in getting to know YOU and seeing if you’re a match with no hidden agenda would love to grab coffee with you and see if there’s something there.
A woman who has some other AGENDA might not agree.
Just this one simple test/filter can save you a lifetime of pain and problems.
-Go for a kiss by the end of the second date…
If she kisses you back, great! She probably has some romantic interest in you.
If she turns her head away, no problem!
We just smoothly end the interaction, we don’t make it weird, and we simply stop contacting her and move on to the next woman (if she just wasn’t ready to be kissed she will chase after you once you stop contacting her and you can resume from there if you want).
This test keeps you out of the friend zone and gives you a tool to measure her romantic feelings for you that talking just doesn’t give you.
And then we just keep doing everything right during those first 2-3 months to make sure her interest level keeps going UP – she passes the final test of this phase when she asks you where your relationship is headed.
So that’s how you test a woman’s interest level.
For more details on what to do if you want a long-term relationship, make sure you grab the Attract and Keep Her System if you haven’t gone through it already (you can get the AUDIOBOOK version here).
B. Test Her CHARACTER…
If you want a long-term relationship with a woman, the other thing you should be taking a closer look at is her character.
In order for a woman to be the right woman for you, she MUST be interested in you, available, and GREATT: giving, responsible, emotionally stable, agreeable, trustworthy (including loyalty), and trusting.
And how do you test her character?
Two main ways:
1. Pay attention to what she says and how she talks about things…
If you’re paying attention, women generally tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about them.
And, usually, they will tell you a lot very quickly…
It’s just that most guys are so interested in a woman that their thinking gets clouded and they miss every red flag that a woman waves around in front of his face. =)
Not us – we’re paying attention and we know what we’re looking for.
So, as time goes by, we gain clarity about who a woman is as a person.
And, while nobody is perfect, the right woman for you has the qualities we listed above to a high degree – these are the things we should look for.
2. Read her ACTIONS and attitude over time…
Her actions, reactions, and patterns of behavior tell you the most about her.
Her words can let you know who she is quickly…
Reading her actions, reactions, and attitude over time takes longer but becomes more important the longer you’re with her and the more serious your relationship becomes.
The key is to look for all of the qualities we went over above and make notes about them…
If she has all of them to at least a reasonable degree, proceed.
If not, she cannot be the right woman for you.
So, the only thing we can do at that point is move on regardless of how strong our feelings are for her.
The good thing about moving on at that point is that you are actually closer to the right woman for you when you move on than if you stay with the wrong woman for you for 25 years…
And, if we’re not with the right woman, NONE of the things we have to do to build and maintain a relationship are worth it in my opinion.
You’re awesome and you deserve to be with a woman who’s there for the right reasons and who is able to build the kind of relationship that keeps both of you happy to be there over time.
And it’s up to you to TEST women to make sure that happens (for both of you).
So get to the right woman for you faster…
And then just make sure you do everything right with her so she falls and stays in love with you.
Alright sir, that’s it for now…
Until Next Time,
Jim
