Being friends with a woman can be a great thing…
And, if you’re already friends with a woman, it can work out with her romantically if she’s interested in you as a romantic partner…
However, if you want to date a woman and/or be in a romantic relationship with her, then you have to be very careful when it comes to the word “friend.”
And that’s what this article is all about:
The word friend + your dating success.
Here’s the thing:
A lot of men think they should become friends with a woman…
And then, sometime later, let her know how they feel about her.
In other words, they think they should start out on the “friends track” and then randomly spring their interest on her as a romantic partner at some point in the future.
And they think that gives them the best chance to actually make something happen with her or they think it’ll be easier that way.
Also, some women even say, “I like to be friends with a guy first before I date him…”
So, is it really a good idea to be friends with a woman first or not?
Should you be FRIENDS with a woman first?
Well, you can probably guess where this is going…
However, we’ll get into some nuances that might give you more clarity as we make our way through this topic, so bear with me.
Here’s the bottom line:
If you want to DATE a woman, then it’s NOT a good idea to be friends with her first.
Why not?
Several reasons:
1. It’s very difficult to switch tracks…
Once a woman labels you as a “friend” in her mind, it’s very difficult for her to start thinking of you as a potential romantic partner.
And, once a woman labels you as a potential romantic partner, it’s very difficult for her to start thinking of you as just a friend. <==Going this way is easier, but still not easy.
2. You’re not really being honest and owning your interest in her…
Listen, being interested in a woman is a normal, GOOD thing.
It’s the reason we’re all here right now.
So, from now on, own your interest in a woman.
“Yeah, of course I’m interested…and it’s no big deal…” <==This is the winning attitude we want to develop.
Also, women are attracted to CONFIDENCE and hiding your true intentions and your interest in a woman is not a confident move.
3. It’s far better to show your interest in an attractive way from the beginning and allow her to respond to that vs. wasting lots of time making her think you’re a friend and then springing your interest on her all of a sudden and expecting her to react well to that.
I mean, isn’t being honest and confident the whole time a better move?
Of course it is.
So, instead of trying to be friends with a woman you’re interested in, show her your interest in an attractive way (show, don’t tell) instead by:
-Starting a conversation with her…
-Asking for her #…
-Asking her out on a date…
-Going for a kiss by the end of the second date…
Etc.
Instead of trying to be friends with her and then switching tracks later.
That way, she knows what you want from the beginning and can react accordingly.
If she’s interested in you, GREAT!
If not, she can let you know (most likely without telling you directly) and then you can decide if you still want to be friends with her even though it’s not going to work out romantically. <==This is a much better situation to be in than to befriend a woman you’d rather be dating.
Now, having said all of that, here’s one situation where being friends with a woman first CAN work:
If you’ve already known each other a long time and it just hasn’t worked out for you to date each other yet…
For example, let’s say you went to college with a young woman and she had a boyfriend most of the time you knew her but you always had a good vibe going with her.
Then, when she broke up with him, you had a girlfriend at the time so you couldn’t go out with her.
Then, 2 years later, both of you find yourselves single and run into each other at the grocery store.
A situation like that definitely can work out.
However, if you meet a new woman and you’d like to date her, just follow the steps we cover inside our best-selling Attract and Keep Her system instead of trying to be friends with her and trying to take some kind of “side door.”
Remember: You don’t want to be direct with your words (don’t tell her how you feel)…
However, you do want to be direct with your ACTIONS (show her how you feel by attracting her properly and by leading her through all the steps).
And now let’s close this topic out by talking about what a woman really means when she says the word “friend” because it means something different in different contexts…
When a woman says:
“Let’s just be friends…”
Or, “I just don’t see you that way…”
Or, “I don’t see my man in you…”
That means that her interest in you as a romantic partner is 0 or below and she sees you as a friend kind of person (or doesn’t really want to be friends but also doesn’t want to hurt your feelings).
On the other hand, when a woman says this about her boyfriend or husband:
“He’s my best friend…”
That means that her interest in him is 9-10 out of 10.
He has reached the pinnacle of female interest where she’s completely in love with him as a romantic partner and feels as connected with him as possible. <==This is where we want to be…
And if you start out doing things the right way vs. trying to be friends with a woman and then trying to switch tracks later, then you’re much more likely to hear her say, “He’s my best friend” about you three years later vs. “Let’s just be friends.”
Make sense?
Awesome.
Remember: She can become your girlfriend or you can be her male girlfriend; not both. And that’s up to you (assuming she’s interested in you).
Until Next Time,
Jim
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