Ahh…modern technology.
It allows you to meet more women than you could have at any other time in human history BY FAR…
And having lots of options can be a great thing.
On the other hand, most guys don’t realize just how powerful technology, especially communication technology, can be when it comes to dating.
It can be an extremely good thing for you when it comes to attracting women OR it can be a nuclear weapon that annihilates your chances with a woman in a millisecond.
I mean, lives have been ruined with just one little “texty text,” an accidental email, and a regrettable social media post.
So, modern communication tech is super powerful.
And that means two things when it comes to attracting women:
1. You should ALWAYS ask for a woman’s number if you’re interested in her…
There’s a reason that military strategists try to take out the enemy’s communications systems: Nothing can happen if you can’t communicate effectively.
So, if you have no way to reach a woman, nothing happens.
And that means that even if you “meet” her on social media or through online dating, you should still get her number (EVERY TIME) so you can text her directly.
You want to have that direct channel of communication open if you want to date her.
So always ask for a woman’s phone number during your first in-person conversation with her. ALWAYS.
(Or, you can give her your number, but that’s an advanced tactic we don’t need to get into in this article because you have to do it right for it to work).
2. You should be very careful when you use technology to contact a woman…
You may not realize how powerful one little text can be.
ONE wrong text can completely destroy a woman’s interest in you.
So make sure you take it seriously even though you should keep your texts light and fun most of the time.
Now listen, worrying about making every word of every text you send to a woman perfect isn’t a good thing; but thinking you can just relax and send her whatever text you want any time you want isn’t going to serve you either.
You might think your phone is just a phone, but, when it comes to attracting a woman, it’s more like a nuclear football.
And that means you have to BE CAREFUL when use it or it could destroy you.
So, let’s go over the #1 rule of texting women and then cover three more important texting tips so that we can make sure the power of modern tech is working FOR you instead of against you…
The #1 Rule of texting women…
Here’s the #1 Rule of texting women: Send it and then forget it…
Don’t send a woman a text and then stare at your phone waiting for her to reply like a puppy waiting by the window for his owner to come home.
Send it and then go do something else…
Then, a little while later, come back and check to see if she responded.
You can reply at that point if you want.
Listen, when we really like a woman, we all feel a little nervous when we’re texting her…
It feels really good when she texts back and it doesn’t feel good when she doesn’t.
We can’t fight these natural feelings and chemicals so we have to find a way to control ourselves.
And the best way is to send her a text and then go do something else for a while.
I don’t want to go too deep with this right now, but, if you actually live a full life that you love and you’re doing a lot of things you enjoy, you will automatically “send it and then forget it” most of the time because you’ll actually be busy doing fun and meaningful things.
However, whether you’ve built that lifestyle for yourself yet or not, it’s always a good idea to send it and then forget it as a general rule.
Because when you sit there waiting by your phone to make sure you see it the instant she texts you back and then reply right away, she can sense it.
She will feel your neediness and it will lower her interest in you.
And, obviously, we want her interest in you to go UP over time.
So, relax when you’re texting with her.
There’s no rush.
Send her a text, then go do something else for a while.
Then, respond to her text when you check your phone again.
Then, if she responds right away, you can reply again.
You can even send her a few texts back and forth.
Then, send a final text and then go do something else again.
Don’t get sucked into the texting vortex…
And that brings us nicely to the next tip:
Texting Tip #1: Try to keep your texts to her shorter and less frequent than her texts to you…
Remember: The main purpose of sending a text to a woman is to set up your next in-person meetup with her. <==Read 3X….
Now, that doesn’t mean that every text you send her should be directly asking her out.
It just means that every text you send her should be setting the stage for asking her out again.
If it doesn’t help you with that, don’t send it.
Don’t send her giant “walls” of text…
And don’t text her again if she didn’t respond to your last text.
Think of texting like a regular conversation: She should be participating…
I mean, if you were talking to someone and they were ignoring you would you just keep talking to them?
Of course not.
You might try to talk to them again a few days later because maybe they were in a bad mood that day or something, but you wouldn’t just continue to talk to them if they didn’t respond to you.
So, if you wouldn’t do it in a “real” conversation, don’t do it when you’re sending messages either.
And, just like a real conversation, she should also be talking about 60-80% of the time when you’re texting her if possible.
For example, here’s a bad texting convo:
HIM: Hey, how are ya?
HER: Great, thx
HIM: I’m good too! I just got my new car washed and I’m about to head out on a little drive. I got some good snacks and found a cool spot to chill for the afternoon. Oh, and I’m also bringing my dog. I got an A on my test yesterday so I’m celebrating. Should be fun…
HER: Awesome
Notice how her texts are really short and his texts are always longer?
Not good.
On the other hand, here’s a good texting convo:
HER: Hey stranger! How are ya? Haven’t heard from ya in a while haha
HIM: Haha, yeah I’ve been out saving the world. 😉 Not really, just busy lately. Doing great though…how are you Ninja Princess?
HER: Soooo good. Got an A on my test yesterday so I think I’m gonna celebrate. I worked hard on this one haha
HIM: That’s awesome!
HER: Yeah, I’m proud of myself LOL
HIM: Let’s go out for a drink tomorrow night to celebrate. How about 7 pm at Cactus Bar?
Notice how she’s contributing more than the last woman was? And notice how there’s a balance in the length of his messages vs. hers?
That’s what we want.
You don’t have to get too crazy and start counting the number of words she sends you vs. the number you send her…
However, as a general rule, you should do your best to make your texts to her a little bit shorter and less frequent than her texts to you whenever you can.
Listen, it feels amazing when a woman you’re interested in is texting back and forth with you…
You know what feels even better though?
When that same woman actually goes on dates with you, kisses you, and eventually falls deeply in love with you because you didn’t text her too often in the beginning stages of dating.
Texting Tip #2: Don’t try to get to know her or try to build rapport via texting…
You want to get to know a woman and spend time with her IN PERSON; not try to build a connection with her using technology…
You can build ATTRACTION using text messages if you do it right, but you should not try to build RAPPORT.
So don’t ask her open-ended questions to try to get to know her and don’t tell her all about yourself.
Save that stuff for your actual dates.
Texting Tip #3: Keep your texts light and playful; don’t get heavy and serious.
Your texts should mostly be light, fun, and short.
Don’t tell her how much you like or love her…
Don’t give her 3,000 compliments…
Don’t start texting her “Good morning beautiful” every morning. <==Yes, some guys do this and it does NOT increase female interest…
Don’t talk about politics, religion, or sex…
Don’t tell her about all your problems and insecurities…
And don’t send her texts about the most recent crisis that’s happening in the world…
Keep things positive, light, and fun for the most part.
And then, keep your texting to a minimum until you’re ready to ASK HER OUT/ASK HER OUT AGAIN <==The ONLY purpose of texting a woman you’re interested in.
Do not underestimate the power of communication technology…
ALWAYS make sure you get a woman’s main phone number so you can text/call her directly to ask her out…
And don’t take texting her lightly.
Whenever you’re in doubt about whether you should send a particular text or not, don’t send it.
Because you’re playing with dynamite…
And it’ll blow up in your face if you’re not careful.
Remember: Texting a woman won’t make her fall in love with you but it can easily smash her interest in you into a million pieces.
All over something as silly as texting.
So use the power your phone gives you wisely my friend.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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