Sometimes a seemingly small mindset shift can make a big impact on your results in life, especially when it comes to attracting women.
The best part: Mindset shifts make you more naturally attractive because once you start thinking about something differently your behaviors automatically start aligning with your new reality.
And it’s your behaviors that really lead to success.
So, you can change your behaviors and be successful…
Or, you can change the way you think, which leads to behavioral changes, which leads to success.
I think you should do both because this cycle reinforces itself…
So, in this article, I’m going to share 2 mindset shifts that can make you more successful with women if you haven’t already adopted both of them.
And both of them have to do with 1’s and 0’s…
The 1’s and 0’s of Dating Women…
Here’s how 1’s and 0’s can make you more successful with women:
Mindset Shift #1: Instead of rating women on some kind of “1-10” scale, rate them as 1’s and 0’s…
Listen, here’s the thing: You should treat every woman you’re interested in exactly the same way.
If she’s a heterosexual human female, the principles that attract and keep her are always the same.
There’s no difference between a “10” and a “7,” etc. (actually, the main difference is that a gorgeous woman will usually tolerate less mistakes than a less beautiful woman simply because she has more options. The behaviors you should do remain exactly the same; doing absolutely everything right just becomes more important as her looks go up due to increased competition, but you should strive to do everything right with every woman you’re interested in anyway).
So, from now on, there’s no such thing as a “10…”
Or a “6…”
There are only 1’s = you’re interested in her…
And 0’s = you’re not interested in her romantically.
That’s it.
The only thing that matters is if she’s good-looking enough for you…
Every woman above that line is a 1.
And, after you meet her, the only thing that matters is if she meets your standards for what you’re looking for in a woman.
Every woman who does is a 1.
And your behaviors should be exactly the same with all the 1’s you meet.
This kind of consistency is masculine and attractive…
It’s less shallow and it makes it easier for you to look for the qualities that you want in a woman beyond looks…
It makes you more confident; especially with the best-looking women…
And it allows you to have more self-control and be more of a challenge naturally.
And, of course, all of that leads to much better results.
This is a healthy, successful mindset that I highly encourage you to adopt starting right now.
Your Friend: “She’s a 10!!!!!!”
You: “Yeah, she’s definitely a 1. I’m going to go talk to her…”
Alright, let’s move on to the next one:
Mindset Shift #2: Apply the “Base of 1 Factor” instead of trying to start from 0.
If you’ve been studying attraction for some time now, you’ve probably heard of “preselection…”
What preselection basically means is that if a woman thinks other women want you, then she will want you (or want you more) as well.
And that’s where the “base of 1 factor” comes in.
The base of 1 factor is simple:
If you already have 1 woman, it’s much easier to attract more women than if you have 0…
That’s why once you have a girlfriend or a wife you start to notice that more women are paying attention to you more often.
And it’s why studies show that men wearing wedding rings are actually more attractive to women than the same men without a ring on.
Now, I’m not saying that you should get a girlfriend and then start going on dates with other women until you can upgrade…
And I’m not saying you should buy a fake wedding ring to trick women into being attracted to you…
What I’m saying is that if you act like you already have a good woman in your life vs. acting like the woman you’re trying to attract is the only possible one for you and you don’t have anything else going on right now, you will be more successful.
For example, if you already had a gorgeous, amazing woman texting you and asking you out…
Or maybe even 2 or 3 great women in your life…
And then you meet a woman you’re interested in as well, would you:
-Wait by your phone for her every text?
-Relentlessly text her back and forth?
-Try to rush everything and be in a relationship with her or hook up with her as quickly as possible?
-Be completely sold on her just because of her looks?
-Ignore red flags that tell you she’s not right for you?
-Ask her out immediately after a date?
-Be completely sure that you’re into her after one or two dates or even just one conversation? Or even after just seeing her?
-Be afraid to playfully tease her and be a challenge?
-Be afraid to wait a few days after a date before you ask her out again?
-Be afraid that she’ll forget you if you don’t “strike while the iron is hot?”
Etc.?
Of course not.
And that’s one reason nonchalant, challenging behaviors are so effective when it comes to raising female interest…
Not only do they demonstrate confidence, self-control, and challenge, which are wildly attractive to women…
They also demonstrate preselection, which means that other women on her level might be interested in you as well. <==This also raises female interest.
Preselection is the opposite of neediness.
And a full cup always gets more because it has more to give in return while and empty cup has to keep desperately searching for any drop it can get without offering much in return.
Now, you might be thinking:
“Well, that’s cool, but isn’t it a lot easier to act like you have a lot of good options if you actually have lots of good options?”
Ummm…yes, it is.
That’s why I highly encourage you to date multiple women, especially if you want to be in a long-term relationship with an awesome woman.
Listen, this might sound crazy to you, but before you officially commit to a woman (after about 6-10 dates with her once she brings up the idea of being in a relationship with you and then you ask her to be your girlfriend), you are allowed to date whoever you want.
And so is she.
And you should keep dating other women no matter how high your interest is in a specific woman before you commit to her because this is about HER interest in you, not your interest in her, and preselection raises HER interest while neediness and laser focus on her smashes it into oblivion.
Ironically, the more special you think she is the more important this becomes for you.
Because if she really is that awesome then you should do absolutely everything you can to make sure she ends up with the best possible guy out there – you – instead of doing things that lower her interest in you.
Now, if you don’t want to or you’re not able to date multiple women at the same time, just ACT AS IF you have several good options and you’ll get the same effect…
Just make sure you do it in a subtle way; we don’t want to try too hard to look like we are preselected because a guy who truly has lots of options wouldn’t do that either.
Make sense?
Excellent.
And remember:
Preselection means that lots of women are interested in you; not that you’re super interested in lots of women or one particular one…
So don’t try to bring up other women to make her jealous.
Focus on your connection with her during your dates and imply that you might have other good options with your actions.
For example, ask her qualifying questions with genuine curiosity because you want to know what makes her different from all the other gorgeous women who are chasing you…
And slow things down instead of rushing head-first into rejection.
Take slow measured steps forward and take a step back in-between.
Ask her out, have fun with her, and then don’t ask her out again right away or tell her you’ll call her…
Just wait 4-8 days and then ask her out again.
Of course, if you already own the Attract and Keep Her system, then you already know all the steps you should take (and, if not, get yourself in there with us!)…
Now it’s just a matter of applying those steps EXACTLY the same way with all the 1’s you meet. =)
When you can do that, you’re well on your way to getting everything you want when it comes to women.
Alright sir, I’ll be back with you soon…
Until Next Time,
Jim
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