There’s ONE thing that, even if you do everything else right, can absolutely demolish your chances with a woman…
And, if you eliminate that one thing, you will do much better with every woman you meet even if you do everything else the same.
What is that one thing you should get rid of for the rest of your life?
Want to Attract a Woman? ELIMINATE THIS…
I call it:
RELATIONSHIP PRESSURE.
And what is relationship pressure?
Anything that implies that you’re already in a relationship with a woman or that you want to be in a relationship with her in the beginning stages of dating.
If you put any RELATIONSHIP PRESSURE on a woman in the early stages of dating, it will kill her romantic interest in you. <==Read 3X…
And, if you eliminate every whiff of relationship pressure, it will allow her romantic interest in you to grow…
Listen, you are responsible for LEADING your relationship with a woman forward…
You’re responsible for asking for her number, asking her out, going for a kiss by the end of the second date, etc.
So, it’s your job to lead this dance.
And, it’s your job to escalate the physical part of the relationship as well.
However, it’s HER job to escalate the relationship.
She’s responsible for it and only she knows when the time is right.
That’s why we wait until SHE brings up the idea of being in a relationship before we ask her to be our girlfriend.
And before that time, we don’t want to bring it up AT ALL or even imply it.
We just keep asking her out and having fun with her until she brings it up…
HER after 6 awesome dates: “Hey, I’m enjoying hanging out with you so much…by the way, where is this relationship headed?” <==This is how you know her interest in you is high enough to ask her to be your girlfriend.
So, now that we’re aware of this, let’s say you’ve been on 3 dates with an amazing woman…
When you send her a text like:
“Good morning beautiful :)”
OR
“Good night =)”
Especially when you start doing it every day/night…
What does that do?
Yep, it implies that you two are already together…
And, you’re NOT.
It’s TOO SOON for that kind of behavior.
If she does it, it’s fine.
If you do it, it can destroy your chances with her.
It’s simply not necessary to send a woman texts like this and it can ONLY hurt you.
And she can’t do that if you send her “good morning” and “good night” texts instead of giving her time and space away from you and your attention.
So, from now on, we DO NOT send a woman texts like this.
Some guys even send this kind of text to a woman they like before they even go out with her on one date.
How do I know?
Because one of my best friends was seeing a very attractive woman recently…
And he told me that one glorious fall morning when they woke up together in his bed she showed him a text from a guy she worked with who wanted to date her but who she hadn’t gone out with before:
“Good morning beautiful…”
Ironic that she read that guy’s text from my friend’s bed.
And that’s exactly how this works. =)
Honestly, I feel a little bad for him because we all know him and he’s a good guy…
He just doesn’t understand anything that we talk about here on this website and in our newsletter yet. If he did, he might have been able to actually date her instead of sending her little texty-texts every morning.
Because she might have liked him instead of losing any interest she might have had in him when he showed his interest too much too soon. <==This is what we ultimately want; our interest in her doesn’t really matter very much in all of this…
So, from now on eliminate RELATIONSHIP PRESSURE completely at all times.
Because, ironically, that will give you the best chance of actually BEING in a relationship with a woman. <==This is the biggest key.
And here are 2 more ways you can get rid of relationship pressure:
1. When you’re on a date, DO NOT think about how great it would be if she was your girlfriend…
Just focus on having fun with her and getting to know her.
When you’re relaxed like this and she doesn’t feel any relationship pressure from you, she starts getting A LOT more interested in being in a relationship with you. <==Read 5X…
This is actually the thing that helped me improve with women the most…
Once I eliminated relationship pressure from my interactions with women, things started to fall into place almost automatically for me.
And I want that for you too.
2. Don’t bring up the topic of being in a relationship with her or talk about the future…
Don’t ask her to marry you or to be your girlfriend on the first date (in fact, if you “break up with her” on your first date that works 1,000x better – try it: “What?! Really…? I can’t believe you like X band! I’m so sorry but I have to break up with you/divorce you now.” ;-).
And don’t tell her how good you would be together…
Don’t tell her how much you like her and want to be with her…
Don’t try to convince her that you would be a good boyfriend or ask her to imagine you guys being together…
Don’t start introducing her to your friends and family and start calling her your girlfriend with them or in public after just a few dates…
Don’t ask her, “Hey, what should we name our first child? I was thinking about it the other day and I came up with Jonathan for a boy and Regina if it’s a girl…What do you think?” (you might be able to do this in a joking way if you know how to do it exactly right…most guys shouldn’t chance it).
Don’t do ANYTHING that implies that you’re already together.
Just keep asking her out and having as much fun as possible with her without any RELATIONSHIP PRESSURE AT ALL. <==This is actually the quickest, most effective path to attracting a girlfriend and/or wife who’s actually into you and who treats you like the awesome guy you really are.
Again, let HER bring up the idea of being together…
Let her become so overwhelmed by how much fun she’s having with you and how great she feels around you and how you’re leading her and then playfully pushing her away and then leading her again and then playfully pushing her away again that she just can’t help herself anymore and she can’t think of anyone she wants to be with more than you or anything she wants more than to be in a relationship with you. <==This is called high interest…
Then, at that point, you can ask her to be your girlfriend if you want.
And, once she agrees, you can text her, “Good night beautiful :)” ONCE a few nights later if you want. =)
Alright sir, I sincerely hope you found this helpful…
Until Next Time,
Jim
