Do you think that Juliet would have been so into Romeo if her family didn’t forbid her from being with him?
It’s possible…but probably not.
Why not?
Because when a woman’s interested in you, she knows you’re interested in her, AND there are obstacles that she has to overcome in order to be with you, that’s when her attraction and love for you are at their absolute peak.
That’s one of the main reasons most guys fail to inspire deep attraction and love in females:
They make everything wayyyyy to easy for her so she never gets to experience overcoming any obstacles to be with them so her attraction and love die instead of turning into a raging bonfire of affection.
Think about this for a second:
The plot of almost EVERY romance novel written for women is a heroine overcoming obstacles to be with the man she desires (and then she gets to see a side of him that nobody else gets to see after she earns it by overcoming said obstacles).
And it works just like that in real life too…
Why?
Mostly because human beings tend to value things they have to work for more than things that are handed to them.
Back when I was six years old, I really wanted an original Nintendo (NES)…
And, my very wise grandmother knew how much I wanted one, so she took the opportunity to teach me many lessons all at once…
She told me, “Okay, you want a Nintendo? Great. Let’s set up a business so you can earn some money and go buy it yourself. If you can raise half the money, I’ll cover the other half.”
Then, she helped me set up a lemonade stand in front of her house selling delicious, ice-cold lemonade on extremely hot summer days for 10 cents a glass…
I was out there every single weekday for almost two months selling lemonade trying to raise the funds for the Nintendo…
I even employed my adorable little sister to wear a sign around her neck and walk around the neighborhood to advertise for me.
And, at the end of the two months, I had earned just over $54…almost exactly half of what the NES cost at the time.
So, my grandma drove me down to Toys R’ Us, we picked up the NES with the original Super Mario Bros game (and Duck Hunt) and both of us beamed with pride as I set my bag of rolled up change on the counter and she paid the rest.
Needless to say, I absolutely LOVED that original Nintendo…
I played it for YEARS and refused to upgrade to a new system until I absolutely had to.
Would I have loved it if my grandma had just bought it for me?
Probably…Super Mario Bros was awesome at the time.
Would I have valued it and loved it as much as I did?
Absolutely not.
I’m 35 years old now and I still think about that original Nintendo.
The point is that I fell so deeply in love with that Nintendo because I had to WORK FOR IT…
And, women feel the same way about men.
Before I knew much about dating, I didn’t understand this concept at all.
I had no idea that women respond positively to CHALLENGE, or that they can’t feel strong emotions for a man if they don’t have to overcome any obstacles to be with him, or that not being so available might actually make women want me more than always “being there” for them.
However, now that I’m more aware, lots of things that I didn’t fully understand before make perfect sense now.
For example, the way one of my best friends met his first ever girlfriend…
I’ll share this story with you here briefly because I think it illustrates some very important attraction principles:
One night back when he was 21 years old, my friend (let’s call him “Johnny”) went out to the bars with some friends.
And that night Johnny decided that he wouldn’t “try to get” women at all…he would just focus on having fun.
So, needless to say, he was naturally relaxed and confident.
Then, a little bit later in the evening, he saw a girl sitting by herself, looking kind of sad…So, he went over to her just to see if he could cheer her up…
And, while Johnny was talking to this girl, her friend saw him talking to her and she could sense that he didn’t have an agenda.
She thought it was sweet that he was trying to cheer her friend up and she got a little jealous…
“I want to talk to him,” she said to herself (she told him her side of this story later).
So, she came up to Johnny, interrupted his conversation with the other girl, and introduced herself.
Then, they had a really great conversation.
Now this is where this article’s theme comes in:
Johnny had a rule at the time (a silly rule that strangely worked for him in this case) that he wouldn’t date girls that he met at a bar or a club…
So, when it became obvious that Johnny and this girl were interested in each other and it got to the point that two people would normally exchange numbers so they could meet up again, he didn’t say anything.
And, because of that, after a while she said something:
“Hey, so…You should take my number so we can hang out again later…”
He replied, “You know what? Honestly, I think you’re really awesome, but I have a rule that I don’t date girls that I meet at a bar…So, sorry but I can’t take your number.”
She was a little shocked to say the least…
But did she give up?
Definitely not.
“Well, I think I’m different than a random ‘bar girl’ because we have lots of mutual friends that we’ve known for a long time, we have a lot in common, and after all, you’re at the bar right now so at least some people at the bar are worth dating right?”
She was trying to convince him to take her number.
And it’s not something he was consciously engineering at all because he (just like me) wasn’t even aware that this kind of thing might work back then.
“Hmmm…yeah that makes sense. Okay, yeah, put your number in my phone and I’ll call you.”
And, as they say, the rest is history: They dated for FIVE YEARS after that. =)
The Obstacle is the Way…
The moral of these stories?
If a woman is interested in you and she knows you’re interested in her AND there are some obstacles in the way of her being with you at the same time, her attraction to you will spike through the roof and she’ll eventually fall in love with you.
The best part?
You don’t have to wait for it to randomly happen.
You can CREATE obstacles for the women you want to attract so that they can experience the gift of feeling intense attraction and deep love for you.
If you already own The Good Guy Guide, then you know what I’m talking about.
Here are just a few examples that you can use today:
1. When you first approach a woman, stand next to her, shoulder to shoulder, and just turn your head to talk to her at first if you can.
Then, as she earns it by having fun with you and being a cool person, turn more of your body in her direction: first your shoulders, then your hips, then your feet.
And, if she does something a little bratty or something you don’t like, turn your body back away from her a little bit.
2. Use a “false time-constraint” to make things less awkward when you’re going to her place or your place with her for the first time:
“Okay, you can come in, but you can’t stay too long. I have a big meeting in the morning.”
“Yeah, I can come in to meet your dog but I can only stay for a few minutes.”
Etc.
3. Don’t be too available with your phone…
Don’t reply immediately every time she texts you.
Don’t ask her out 5 minutes after you just went on a date with her (wait a few days…).
Don’t double text her if she doesn’t reply to one of your texts…let the conversation resume naturally later or let it die.
4. Show self-control when it comes to getting physical:
Pull back from the kiss first.
Try putting an article of clothing BACK ON her once in a while just to be funny.
Make her say, “Please” before you “give it to her.” If she refuses, don’t give it to her.
Etc.
5. Compliment her, then challenge her.
This is one of the most powerful tools you can have in your attraction arsenal.
For example:
“You seem like a really cool girl…it’s too bad I don’t date blondes (her hair color) anymore.”
OR
“You seem like such a fun person. It’s too bad I’m not attracted to you at all. ;-)”
Notice how these lines show your interest in her AND place an obstacle in her way at the same time…
That’s what we want to set up because this is what works when it comes to women.
Remember: If a woman’s interested in you and she knows you like her too but there are obstacles in her way that make it more difficult for her to be with you, her attraction to you will skyrocket and she’ll eventually fall in love with you.
So, express your interest in her a little bit (in an attractive way) AND throw obstacles in her way and she’ll love you as much as I still love that Nintendo after 30 years. =)
In other words, start being more of a challenge so she feels like she’s earning you and your attention instead of just getting 100% of you all the time without earning it at all.
Of course, once you’ve been doing this for about 2-3 months, she’s completely in love with you, and you’re her official boyfriend, you can kick things into “maintenance mode…”
However, until then, YOU MUST place some obstacles in her way in order for her to feel extremely attracted to you and/or fall in love with you…
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So, promise me you’ll at least use a playfully challenging line on at least one awesome female over the next few days and see what happens.
My guess: She’ll absolutely CRUSH any obstacle you can possibly throw at her and you’ll witness the attractive power of a woman overcoming obstacles to be with a man first-hand.
Once you realize that THIS IS WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT, success will start to almost automatically flow your way.
Good luck out there sir…
Cheers!
Jim
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