When you think of spies attracting women, you probably think of James Bond…
However, did you know that during the Cold War East Germany trained male spies whose MAIN job was to attract women for their country?
We call them “Romeo Spies” now:
Their job was to seduce Western secretaries of powerful men, gain their trust, and gain access to Western state secrets through their relationship with them.
And, they were so successful that at least 53 documented cases of women falling for these Romeo Spies had happened by 1978…
Western powers started putting up posters warning secretaries about these men, and, by 1980, NATO started compiling a registry of single female secretaries in an effort to try to stop them.
So, needless to say, they knew what they were doing…
And, their boss and the man who trained them in seduction and trade-craft was a man named Markus Wolf…
Wolf was the #2 man in the East German Stasi and head of its foreign intelligence division for 34 years…
What the Master of Spy Seduction Taught His Romeo Spies:
So what would make an aspiring Romeo Spy effective according to Wolf?
Here are a few things:
1. They should be likable and have good social skills.
2. They should be able to make themselves the center of attention.
3. They should LISTEN WELL, which makes women enjoy talking to them.
Those are the three most critical traits of a Romeo Spy according to the man who trained them.
Sound simple?
Maybe.
Just remember: It WORKED. Really really well.
Most guys try to convince a woman to like them and one of the ways they do that is by telling her all about themselves…
Successful guys don’t brag and they let HER do most of the talking.
If you just took this one tip and applied it on all your dates, you would easily 10X the results of an average guy…
The best part: It makes your life easier because you don’t have to constantly think about what awesome thing to say back.
It makes you more mysterious and attractive and it makes her like you more at the same time because:
We like people more when we share things about ourselves with them; so, she starts feeling more connected to you when SHE tells you things about HERSELF, not when you share things about yourself with her.
Plus, most women enter an almost euphoric state when they get the chance to talk a lot…
Win-win-win.
What else did Wolf teach his Romeo Spies to take them to the next level in terms of attracting women?
Mr. Wolf goes on to say:
“If you want to seduce a woman, you don’t go to them; have them come to you.
You become the center of the party, you buy the drinks, you tell the jokes. You’re the life of the party.
She will come to you. And then naturally that will make it easier.”
(Source: How to Use Sex Like a Russian Spy)
YES!
Your job is to encourage her to come to you.
Now, you don’t HAVE to be “the life of the party” to encourage a woman to chase you…
Introverts do just as well as long as they understand the idea that your job is to set things up so that she’s pursuing you at least a little bit and apply that idea when they meet women.
(Yes, it’s actually natural for women to pursue men…it just doesn’t seem like it because 90%+ of men smother female interest in the cradle and never see a woman behave this way toward them. Plus, they believe the LIE that they are the pursuer. When women start chasing you aggressively and you see it for yourself, you probably won’t believe it at first because it’s so counter to our culture).
How to Encourage a Woman to Chase You…
Here are a few ways you can start applying this principle right now:
1. Instead of going out to the bar and taking your chances meeting random women, try being the leader of and/or starting a group that does activities that women are interested in.
For example, start a yoga club or a philanthropy group.
And, it’s best if you genuinely enjoy the activity you’re leading so that you actually feel great about being there.
When women see that you are the leader of a social group and it’s a group they want to belong to, THEY COME TO YOU.
And, as Mr. Wolf says, that makes everything a million times easier.
2. When you go out on a date with a woman, focus on having fun with her, being playful with her, and getting to know her…
Let her worry about whether or not you’re going to kiss and about where the relationship is headed.
And, again, let HER do most of the talking…
Then, after you have a great time with her, tell her good night and walk away.
Or, if it’s the second date, give her an awesome kiss and then walk away.
Then, disappear for a while and LET HER think about you for a while…
Let her come to you a little bit.
Let her text you first sometimes.
Let her text to you be the last text in a texting conversation whenever you can.
Wait a few days before you ask her to meet up with you again.
Take your time.
In the meantime, she might text you and she might even ask you out.
And that’s exactly what we want.
Now, if she gets frustrated with you for not chasing her like every other guy she gets rid of (this is a GREAT thing because it’s a very strong indicator of interest and it means you’re doing well), you can just say things like:
“Oh, you want me to text you more? Okay cool, I can do that =)”
“I’m not really much of a texting (or phone) guy…Want to meet up on Wednesday? We can talk as much as you want then =)”
“Why didn’t you text me? =)”
“Why haven’t you asked me to hang out again yet? ;-)”
“Oh, you want to see me more often? Why is that? What do you like so much about me? =)”
“Oh, you want to meet up again? Me too! =) Can you meet me at Salsa Restaurant tomorrow at 8 pm?”
HER: Why haven’t you texted me?!
YOU: I did…
HER: When?!
YOU: Just now silly 😉
Remember: Everything’s better when she comes to you.
Also remember: Her being frustrated with you is VERY similar to her being attracted to you in the beginning stages of dating (the first 2-3 months).
3. Playfully CHALLENGE her…
For example:
“You know what, you’re such a cool girl. It’s too bad I’m not attracted to you at all ;-)”
is A MILLION times better than:
“You’re SUCH an amazing girl.”
Or, “I’m so into you right now.”
Or, “You’re so smart and funny.”
Etc.
Why?
Besides the fact that you’re communicating that you’re interested AND that you’re not needy at the same time, it also encourages her to chase you.
Because when you give her a light compliment and then follow it up with a challenge like that and she reacts by trying to convince you to like her in some way, hitting your arm playfully, etc…
SHE’S COMING TO YOU now…
And, again, everything’s better when she’s coming at you.
After all, she can’t purse you and reject you at the same time.
Just ask Mr. Wolf and all those uber-successful East German Romeo Spies…
Even if you don’t agree with their politics, you can’t argue with their success.
Until next time sir,
Jim
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