Did you know that women are attracted to the source of strong emotions?
That’s why they’re sometimes attracted to a “jerk” for a minute:
He makes her FEEL SOMETHING…
…until she realizes he’s actually just insecure and controlling.
And, this is also the biggest weakness of the “nice guy” who has a hard time attracting women: The inability to inspire STRONG FEELINGS inside women he’s attracted to.
In fact, his whole “strategy” is to avoid making her feel anything…
So, if a woman is attracted to the source of strong emotions, does this “strategy” work?
Of course not…
Well, what’s the solution then?
Should we go around insulting women and putting them down to make them feel BAD?
Definitely not…
Especially if you want to attract high-quality women and feel good about it.
Using put-downs (or “negs” as the dating industry calls them) to try to attract women is like eating at Jack-in-the-Box: it might feel satisfying for a minute but you’ll definitely regret it later =).
10X Your Masculine Positivity…
The solution we want to apply is to LIFT OURSELVES UP, create strong positive emotions for ourselves and share them with the women we date, and tease her, challenge her, and otherwise frustrate her at the same time…
If you can be a gentleman, make her feel all kinds of GOOD strong emotions AND make her feel strongly ATTRACTED to you by teasing her and challenging her AND make her feel a little frustrated with you because you’re not chasing her like every other guy in the world, you will be rewarded with all kinds of feminine delights.
Remember: Her being frustrated with you is almost the same thing as her being attracted to you in the beginning stages of dating.
It’s important to realize that her feeling STRONG EMOTIONS toward you is exactly what we want.
Do we want her to feel “good” emotions around you like happiness and acceptance?
Of course.
However, it’s also a GOOD thing if she feels emotions like frustration or even sadness that you’re leaving when you say goodbye when she’s around you.
And it’s definitely a good thing if she feels strong RESPECT for you as well: She wants you to stand up to her when required. She wants you to say no when you should say no. She wants you to disagree with her without putting her opinion down.
Challenging her, teasing her, standing up for yourself, saying no once in a while, and refusing to chase her are GOOD THINGS, not “negative” things like putting her down.
And they make her MORE attracted to you, not less.
If you feel like making her a little frustrated with you or upset with you is a bad thing, you’re probably just misinterpreting something awesome that we want (sexual tension) as something bad (her being upset with you and therefore losing attraction and never talking to you again, which isn’t how it works).
When she has an amazing time with you and feels really good around you AND you playfully tease her, stand up to her when necessary, show her your boundaries, and don’t chase her like every other guy, she feels the most possible strong emotions for you…
And, again, if you can be the source of the most strong emotions for her, she will be attracted to YOU.
Make sense?
Excellent.
Now, being the source of strong emotions can be more difficult than it sounds…
So, here are a few things that will help you become the source of strong emotions for the women you date:
1. Practice Gratitude…
Write down 3 things you’re grateful for every single day…
Why?
Because research shows that practicing gratitude increases your long-term happiness.
And, when you create the powerful emotion of genuine, grounded happiness for YOURSELF, you can then share that masculine, grounded positivity with the women you date. They will FEEL IT when you do this for sure.
If you don’t create this masculine positivity for yourself, you can’t possibly bring this strong positive emotion into your relationships.
So, instead of waiting for “outside events” to make you happy, CREATE this happiness for yourself. Then, share it with the women you like.
2. Take Action Toward Your Genuine Desires…
Research also shows that going after the things we want most makes us happier as well.
It’s the exact opposite of depression: Having things that you strongly want to get out of bed for.
And, the most interesting part is that the fulfillment of your desire isn’t what makes you happier: It’s the progress you make toward your desire that keeps you in a positive state.
So, set some targets for the things you really want in your life.
Then, start taking action to make them happen.
Then, once you hit one of your targets, make a new one and KEEP GOING.
If you have a vision of something you want and you’re taking action to make it reality, you will be happier for yourself and also much more naturally attractive to women at the same time.
3. Accept Yourself and Keep Improving…
If you’re reading this article, you’re probably into learning and growing as a man…
That’s a great thing and it’s definitely one of the things that will make you wildly successful successful in life.
However, it’s possible that you might also have trouble accepting who you are right now.
If you can accept yourself exactly as you are right now, perfectly imperfect in this exact moment AND continue to improve yourself from that healthy place instead of a place of “not good enough yet,” you’ll be much more naturally grounded, confident, and masculine.
And, guess what: Women get to feel how YOU feel when they’re around you.
So, if you truly accept yourself, how does a woman feel when she’s with you?
Yep, she feels that deep level of acceptance from you as well.
And that acceptance is extremely attractive.
Remember: The least judgmental men do the best with women.
So find a way to accept yourself and keep improving at the same time.
4. Focus on the Things You CAN Control…
If you try to control things that are impossible for you to control, you will feel one powerful emotion that will actually drive women away: FRUSTRATION.
The guys who do the best with women minimize their frustration in life by putting all of their energy into the things they CAN do and not WASTING energy on things they can’t control.
It’s not so much that they aren’t frustrated because they do well with women (although that’s also true); it’s more that they do well with women because they aren’t frustrated.
Make sense?
I highly encourage you to make a list of all the things you’re concerned about…
Could be anything:
-Your grades at school…
-Your income…
-Hunger in Africa…
-Hunger in your own town…
-Murder rates in Chicago…
Etc.
List everything you’re concerned about…
Then, on a new sheet of paper, write down the items from your list that you can ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING ABOUT.
Focus on those things.
That’s how you maximize your PERSONAL POWER.
And, when you focus all your energy on the things you CAN control and accept everything else, you become much more grounded and much less frustrated…
And, of course, a man who’s in control of himself and his own reality and who claims all of his power is insanely attractive to women…
So, claim ALL of your personal power and use it to take the actions you CAN take toward your genuine desires.
Now, here’s the best part about all of this: All four of the things we just talked about make your life better for yourself AND make women more attracted to you at the same time…
And, they’re ALL within your complete control. =)
So, I highly encourage you to do all four of them, forget about all the things outside of your control, and really focus in on your own lane from this point forward…
Because, if you actually DO everything you CAN DO and you keep going, you will win guaranteed:
CLAIM your power, take action toward your deepest desires, create positive emotions for yourself, share them with the women you date, accept yourself and keep learning and growing AND fear not making women feel anything more than you fear the “disapproval” of women and you will get everything you want when it comes to dating.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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