We see it in TV shows and movies all the time:
The main character likes a girl…
Usually, he’s known her for a long time at school or at the office…
His friends figure out that he likes her and they realize he’s afraid to make a move…
They know he’s an amazing guy who deserves to be happy and they want to be helpful so eventually one of them says, “You have to tell her how you feel!”
Then, he does…
And, she’s almost always REALLY happy that he finally said something, he generally gets the girl, and they “live happily ever after” together…
If only it was that easy in real life!
Listen, if it worked like that I wouldn’t have a job; but I still wish it was that easy or that it could be so straightforward for us…
Unfortunately, the only time it works like that is on TV and in the movies.
IN REAL LIFE, you should NOT “tell her how you feel.”
What should you do instead?
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TELLING VS. SHOWING
You SHOW her how you feel by attracting her properly.
You’re still COMMUNICATING your interest in her; you’re just doing it in an attractive way that she responds positively to instead of flapping your gums.
When you “tell her how you feel,” you’re TRYING TO GET SOMETHING FROM HER: You want her to tell you she likes you too and then take the lead for you…
When you show her how you feel by attracting her properly, you’re GIVING SOMETHING TO HER by leading.
When you GIVE FREELY, you get better results…
You just have to be okay with it if she ends up not being interested and GO FOR IT in an attractive way:
When you start talking to her, you SHOW HER that you think she’s at least somewhat interesting…
When you give her a little more positive body language (you point more of your body in her direction) as she EARNS it by laughing at your jokes, answering your open-ended questions, and participating in the conversation with you, you SHOW HER that you’re starting to like her more and that she’s earning your attention…
When you ask for her phone number, you SHOW HER that you want to get to know her more and see her again…
When you ask her to meet up, you SHOW HER that you like her…
When you go for the kiss, you SHOW HER that you like her.
SHOW HER; don’t tell her.
This can go the other way too (you have to do it in an attractive way):
For example, when you give her flowers on the first date, you SHOW HER that you’re too interested in her too soon without even knowing her yet.
So save the flowers for AFTER she’s in love with you and she’s already your girlfriend.
Because giving her flowers randomly after she’s already your official girlfriend and she’s already in love with you is GIVING her something. It feels REALLY good to her.
Buying her flowers before she’s in love with you is TRYING TO GET something (i.e. get her to like you/fall in love with you). It makes her sick to her stomach.
So, instead of “telling her how you feel,” ask yourself:
“How can I SHOW HER how I feel so that she gets the message without me having to say anything directly?”
And then, ask a follow-up: “How can I show her in an ATTRACTIVE way that’s appropriate for the situation?”
The answer: follow the attractive behaviors that we cover here on this website and inside the Attract and Keep Her system.
You want HER to come to the conclusion, “Hmmm…I think this guy likes me a lot” all on her own without you having to say anything.
And, you also want her to come to the conclusion, “Hmmm…I really like this guy,” all on her own at the same time.
Let her figure it out on her own.
That way, it’s HER idea to be with you. And, if it’s HER idea to be with you, she can’t possibly want to leave you at the same time.
So don’t “tell her how you feel…”
Instead, ask for her number, ask her to meet up with you one-on-one on a specific day at a specific time, have a great time with her on the date, banter with her, tease her, challenge her, qualify her, go for the kiss by the end of the second date, wait a few days after each date and then ask her out for a specific date and time again.
Then just repeat the process until she says (usually takes 2-3 months), “Hey, where is this relationship headed?” Then, decide if you want to be her boyfriend.
Or, repeat the process until she declines one of your offers (she doesn’t give you her number, she never replies to your text, she declines your date invite, etc.). Then, move on to one of the other 3.5 BILLION amazing potential “soul mates” out there.
That’s how you do it.
Make sense?
Excellent.
Good luck out there sir…
Cheers,
Jim
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